Coping with Infidelity

Will an extramarital affair be the end of a marriage, or can you cope with the infidelity? Some marriages are good and some are rough. Not every marriage is easy. You can expect so much from a marriage and end up getting nothing. It's all about perspective and both of your personalities.

In a marriage of the kind we all yearn to have, fidelity is vital. It implies a commitment that’s total and complete. You seek the closest intimacy possible from no one else, so sufficient is the love you receive. What could be more reassuring, more meaningful? But a relationship that intense, comes with a price tag.

And infidelity in a relationship based on such love can be shattering. Nothing can fix that first fine careless rupture. Trust is ruptured forever. It’s a betrayal that leaves you feeling painfully inadequate.

You look back through the prism of time and realize how wonderfully didactic you were in your youth! At 25, black and white could never co-exist. But then, life happens. And you realize that grey exists, and it is often a zone that needs far more maturity and understanding to inhabit than you ever dreamt.

When you’ve been married for many years, the first lesson you learn is that marriage is a relationship which, like human beings themselves, is constantly morphing and evolving. It’s an equation where the variables change the answers constantly. People sometimes lead married lives together with infidelity between them. Children, autumn love, companionship allow such relationships to survive.

In the end, its all about what you really want from your spouse. You can get past a cheating spouse and life will continue. Life will continue with or without the present spouse. That's it for now with my marriage relationship advice.